How to Deal With a Difficult Diagnosis
There’s a reason doctors ask patients to be seated before giving them a difficult diagnosis. Receiving news like this can be jarring – to the point that it physically shakes you. And even after the initial shock of the diagnosis settles, there can be a profound sense of stress, anxiety, worry, and fear. But there’s one thing you don’t have to feel, and that’s hopeless.
No matter the diagnosis, there are ways to approach the circumstances you’re facing in order to feel more at peace. It all comes down to how you choose to view the cards you’ve been dealt.
1. Give Yourself Time to Process
First, allow yourself some time to process the news. It’s okay to feel a whirlwind of emotions. You might experience shock, disbelief, anger, or sadness. These feelings are normal. Don’t rush yourself to “be okay.” Everyone processes bad news differently, and it’s important to let yourself feel what you’re feeling.
Find a quiet space where you can be alone if you need to. Take deep breaths and try to ground yourself in the present moment.
“Deep breathing is one of the best ways to lower stress in the body. This is because when you breathe deeply, it sends a message to your brain to calm down and relax. The brain then sends this message to your body” Healthwise explains.
In addition to deep breathing, writing down your thoughts in a journal can help you sort through the chaos in your mind. If you prefer talking, consider confiding in a close friend or family member who can provide a listening ear.
2. Gather Information
Once you’ve given yourself a bit of time, start gathering information about your diagnosis. Knowledge can be empowering. It helps you understand what you’re dealing with and what to expect moving forward. Ask your doctor detailed questions and don’t hesitate to request further explanations if something isn’t clear. It’s tempting to stay quiet for fear of bothering your medical team or coming across as needy, but this is your right.
For example, let’s say you’ve been diagnosed with mesothelioma. Understanding mesothelioma symptoms is extremely important, as it will allow you to have a better grip on why you feel a certain way. You’ll come to realize that your unexplained weight loss is likely tied to your diagnosis, or that your chest pain is due to the fluid buildup around your lungs.
When you do speak with your medical team, write meticulous notes (as it’s extremely easy to forget what the doctor said once you leave). You might also bring a family member or friend to take notes on your behalf.
3. Build a Support Network
No one should have to go through a difficult diagnosis alone. Building a support network is crucial. This network can include family, friends, support groups, and healthcare professionals.
Do your best to lean on those who care about you and let them know how they can help. Sometimes just having someone to talk to can make a world of difference.
If you don’t have people in your life who you can talk to – or you need some extra help – consider joining a support group for people with similar diagnoses. These groups can be found online or in your local community.
Hearing from others who are going through the same thing can provide comfort, practical advice, and a sense of camaraderie.
4. Focus on Self-Care
Taking care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally is more important than you’ll ever know. This means prioritizing activities that promote your well-being. Ensure you’re eating nutritious meals, getting enough sleep, and finding ways to stay physically active, even if it’s just a short walk each day.
Mental and emotional self-care is equally crucial. Participate in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether that’s reading a good book, watching a favorite Netflix show, or practicing mindfulness and meditation. Little joys like this can shift your mindset, take your mind off the diagnosis, and allow you to reintroduce some normalcy back into your life.
5. Take One Day at a Time
Take things little by little, one day at a time. While it’s easy to become overwhelmed by thinking too far ahead or worrying about the future, try to focus on the present and what you can do today. Setting small, manageable goals can help you feel more in control and give you a sense of accomplishment.
Remember, it’s okay to have good days and bad days. Healing and coping aren’t linear processes. Sometimes you’ll feel like you’re taking one step forward and two steps back. While that can feel frustrating, be kind to yourself and recognize that it’s perfectly normal to have ups and downs.
Facing the Next Chapter of Your Life With Joy
Joy isn’t usually a word that people equate with difficult medical diagnoses. But if you approach your situation from the right angle and arm yourself with the best spiritual and relational support, you can find joy even in the midst of challenging circumstances. That would be our hope for you!
